The Big C – it’s still one of the most gut-wrenching things anyone can ever be told they’ve gotten. Sure, the statistics have improved twentyfold in the past decade or so, but statistics are hardly enough to keep someone feeling warm and fuzzy at night, which is why one of the most common battles of cancer is one of attitude as much as anything else. It is trying to ignore the swirling, whirling negative thoughts and find the positives. It’s not easy.
Self-loathing, anger, that feeling of being helpless; they’re all common when it comes to being diagnosed with cancer, and even if you do manage to find a sweet distraction, they only ever seem to be temporary.
It begs the question: how the heck are you meant to stay chipper and positive when you’re living with the Big C?
Well, to help you out, we’ve pulled together a list of tips and tricks that may help you handle the negative hurricane a little bit more and, who knows, help you get back to your smiley ways sooner than you ever thought possible:
- The Magic Of A Moment
Living one moment at a time may sound super-cliched and just a polite way of saying, que sera sera, but it’s actually one of the most celebrated thought processes amongst survivors. It’s this idea of recognizing you’re probably always going to have moments of doubt and despair, but to let them come and go as moments normally do. Manage this and you’ll find the gorgeous vice versa starts to ring true and that’s when most of your little victories will start poking through.
- Get Inspired Will Ya
People who want to make it in basketball no doubt watched video after video of Michael Jordan doing his thing in the same way wannabe filmmakers studied the successes of their peers when hoping to reach stardom. So why not surround yourself with cheerleaders by hearing the stories of survivors. If you’re more of a realist, then why not flick about on SurvivingMesothelioma.com and see what helped them, or go down the dreamer’s route of reading fictionalised true-stories and dressed-up Hollywood films. Yeah, it’s cheesy as hell, but knowing what you’re going through is beatable is a great way to get your mojo back.
- Network With Others
Mmm hmmm, networking isn’t just something new entrepreneurs do to find their feet, share their stories and make some friends, it’s what all of us should be doing. It’s a great way to find humour in a really shitty situation, like The Fault In Our Stars and Affable In Adversity will prove. It’s a great way to confront the situation, find compassion, let down your walls and surrounding yourself with an empathetic support group that will know what you’re going through, encourage you and be there for both the setbacks and successes.
- Know What Triggers It
We all have bad days. They’re impossible to avoid. But, more often than not, there is usually a trigger that sets off these downward spiralling moods. Our advice: identify if there is anything in particular that’s making you feel way worse than you thought humanly possible and then work out how you can stop them escalating. If it is watching Hollywood films full of condescending pity that rile you up, stop watching them. If it’s your friends treating you differently, just say “hey, come on now” and see how things change.